When we are lonely we are vulnerable, we are weak, we feel like we need someone else to pick us up because that’s the only way we will feel better. But that's not true. This will entrap you into even more anguish. You are better off being alone, heal and be ready before you find love again. You have to be confident enough and feel complete without having someone else and only then can you know what you really want in your next relationship.
As said by Mandy hale "Until you get comfortable with being alone, you'll never know if you're choosing someone out of love of loneliness."
Meet; Babs! 😍❤️ I am dating! But I’m so in love, I can’t leave Babs alone. If you know what I mean 🙈 Now we are both in a separate loft, until I’m neutered. Fortunately, we can look at each other 😍😍 #DATING#GIRLFRIEND
Let’s talk about joy in marriage. One of the things my husband and I never did to prepare for marriage was to get premarital counseling. Our long-distance relationship turned marriage was such a whirlwind, we literally couldn’t figure out how that could happen before I moved to LA. As much as we loved each other and talked sooo much over Skype, text, email, social media, etc. you’d think we’d be experts at being on the same page. Something happened once we were around each other daily and jumped into the routine of “real life”: we found out our communication was terrible. It wasn’t until we went through a program called @coupletalk (we’re actually one of the couples on their amazing DVD series) that we got some keys to figure out how to talk to each other and listen. After we completed the course, we thought about how great this would have been to have BEFORE marriage. I’d say that was a major turning point and it’s helped us to see that the enemy often creates division in relationships due to our lack of productive communication. I’ve personally witnessed this destroy families, marriages, and even friendships. Though we’ve come a long way, we still have room to grow. One thing my husband and I did a few months ago was create a list of the things we need in order to feel loved and give that list to each other as a reference point. The lists aren’t long, but I’m telling you it made a major impact for the better. I can’t tell you how much peace this brings me, and I hope you’ll give things like this a try. •
Sweater and jeans courtesy of @shopaprilblooms •
The fear of “starting over” should never be the reason why you remain in a relationship that is hurtful, discouraging, negative, unhealthy, etc...
Instead of thinking about the challenges of “ starting over”, think about the freedom and relief you will experience when you do what is right for your well-being. Think about the opportunity you will have to change your life for the better... The rest will follow when the time is right💖