We're taught to mind our manners. Be polite. Never taddle. Hush. And that's only led to more abuse and illness. suicide among girls between ages 10 - 14 has experienced the largest percent increase, tripling in past 15 years. Anti-depressants have increased by 65% in the last 15 years. Our society is sick and needs an intervention. It's time to unlearn what is untrue. 1-3 girls and 1-5 boys is sexually abused and it's time to remove the stigma. We MUST stand up. Scream. Shout. Advocate. Report. PROTECT. It's up to us to change our society. #timesup#keeptalking#radiate#change#hope#advocacy
Hollywood's A-list went back to black for the annual bash to support @TIMESUPNOW and stand up against sexual assault, harassment and inequality in the workspace of underrepresentated people, especially women. Here's our top five favourite looks from the 2018 Golden Globes!
But we already knew that, right gals? 😉 These #womenaresmarter T-shirts were designed by my gorgeous friend @suziekondi in the East Village of Manhattan for @itsasickness_productions and are so on point for 2018 👌🏻 | Link to support up top in my bio | 📸 shot by @luisabrimble at Bradleys Head, one of my favourite places in Sydney... more on that coming soon!
Don’t underestimate me
Don’t patronize me
Don’t coddle me
Don’t hold me back from my dreams
Don’t tell me what to do
Don’t keep me in a box
Don’t limit me
Don’t brush me off as another pretty face
Don’t tell me to think like a man, but act like a woman
Don’t laugh at my questions
Don’t tell me I don’t have a voice because I’m not YET married and I am not YET a Mom
YET, I’ve listened and counseled hundreds of broken people, sat in their pain, cried and held their hands when they spoke of abuse and held the space for them to heal, as I kneel every night before I go to bed...longing for a love to hold, waiting on God... Don’t limit me to a job description
Don’t tell me I don’t measure up because I don’t meet your perfectionistic expectations
Don’t push your ego over mine
Don’t use me to feed an emotional need you’re not getting from your significant other
Don’t discard me as an insignificant piece to your million piece life puzzle with warped edges gone missing
Don’t smear your insecurity onto me
Don’t mock my emotion
Don’t disregard my story
Do not...insult...my intelligence
God has plans for our lives. But the thing is this, God's plans for us comes in times and seasons. We usually expect everything to happen so quickly, we usually expect everything to happen at the speed of light sometimes we think "if God said it then God should have done it sooner" and we begin to lose hope and give up so quickly. We forget that we serve a God of times and seasons. We forget that we are dealing with a God who sees the end from the beginning, a God who sees the entire road. Sometimes what we perceive as delay or God not answering to us is what He calls "making every crooked path straight before arrival" you know, our earthly parents send us to school when we are of age, from pre school to elementary school to high school to college just like that because that's the natural path things should follow but our Heavenly Father who sees all things sometimes wouldn't let us pass a certain phase until He is sure we can soar through the next, He wouldn't let us leave one phase until He is certain that every obstacle ahead has been cleared then he releases us and while this is happening, we begin to over think things in our small minds and we begin to question God's faithfulness but once we learn to walk in faith and trust of God's timing we would see that at the end all that really mattered was what God was doing. Trust me dear friend. God is doing something good. He is about to blow your mind!!!! Whooohoooo don't lose hope! Eat good food, dance to loud music, worship God, pray, pray, and pray some more. Just learn to love on Him and pour out your heart to Him. You'd be amazed!!! #HumanEdifice #Human #WomanEdifice#Empowerment#WomanEmpowerment#Growth#God#Women#Hope#Love#Peace#purpose#Prayer #Pray #Live#Wellness#Trust#timesup#womenrise#she#legoo#building#helpingothers#Godslove
I got to the point where I didn’t have Enough self respect to get out of it for myself.
But I did it for my daughter.
Let me explain.
I loved a guy. More than I’ve ever loved anyone. And I’m not sure if it’s one of those loves that can be replicated. But like most crazy loves we were toxic and our highs were in the clouds and are lows were in hell.
We did things.
We both did things.
That were not ok.
After we ended it.
He slut shamed me.
He called me easy.
A notch on a belt.
It was awful.
It was cruel.
It was All said in anger.
After time went on we reconciled. He apologized for what he said. He tried to make amends. He’d call me and say things to suck me back into this chaos of us.
I wanted to go back.
I still want to go back sometimes so Fucking bad that it eats at my soul.
But I don’t.
And I don’t do it because of my fierce self-love. I wish I could say I do. I wish I dig my heels in and look into the mirror and give myself a fierce talk and I’m good.
But sometimes that’s not enough.
When it’s not.
I do it for my daughter.
Because I will not allow her to have a father who has slut shamed her mom.
I will not allow her to have a sexist father, who thought less of a woman because of the amount of people she chose to have sex with.
I will not sit on her bedside when she’s crying over a boy and tell her she deserves to be treated better when I know I chose I did not.
I will not be the coward that tells her to be strong while gritting my teeth to suppress the memories of abuse I have endured.
I will sit on her bedside.
Look her dead in the eye and tell her, honestly.
I have been there before.
I’m better for it.
I decided to raise the bar for all women when I took a stand for what was unacceptable and she can and should continue to raise that bar.
In that moment. It will be worth it.
Amerikan değer bekçiliği bana hep biraz abartı gelmiştir. Herşey bir "cultural appropriation" meselesi haline çok çabuk dönüşüyor sanki. Saçlarını örgü yaptın, siyahlara hakaret; Cadılar Bayramı'nda Kızılderili gibi giyindin, o kültüre hakaret... Hemen herkes ayağa kalkar, bunları yapan ünlüler yerden yere vurulur. Belli bir kültüre ait bir şey takmak, kıyafet giymek neden hakaret oluyor anlamıyorum. *
Şimdi de #metoo ve #timesup akımlarıyla kadın haklarının suyu çıkarılıyor benzer değer bekçiliği sınırları genişletilerek. Önceki senelerde #feminist kelimesinin suyu çıkarıldı. Zira şu an her zincir mağazada "feminist" yazılı t-shirtler bulabilir, kelimenin anlamını bilmeyen birçok insanın üzerinde bu önemli konunun -üzgünüm ama- ayağa düştüğünü görebilirsiniz. Bugünlerde yeni bir akım olarak Amerika'da her gün başka bir ünlü erkek rastgele bir kadın tarafından tacizle suçlanıyor. (Bkz. Son günlerde acayip tartışma yaratan feminist aktör #AzizAnsari nin kötü seks deneyiminin taciz hikayesine dönüştürülmüş olması) Bu sebepten dolayı aralarında #CatherineDenevue#LeilaSlimani nin de bulunduğu 100 Fransız kadın bu akıma karşı çıktıklarını belirten bir mektup yayınladılar #LeMonde da. Kısacası mağduriyet edebiyatı yapmanın kadın hakları konusuna zarar verdiğini söylediler. Katılmadığım yönleri de olsa da mektup bence Amerikan şovenizmine de bir dur dediği için anlamlı. *
Herşeyden mağduriyet çıkarmak, gerçek mağdurlara haksızlık etmek diye düşünüyorum. Çevremdeki birçok kadına kendilerine bir şekilde kötü davranılmasına izin verdikleri için kızmışımdır bugüne kadar. Sana kötü davranılıyorsa, ağaç değilsin, çık git. Cevap ver, tepki göster. Elmayla armutu karıştırmamak, ciddi meseleleri ayağa düşürmemek önemli diye bir de ben fikir belirteyim istedim.
Sevdiğim feminist bir siteye yazacaktım ama bu sınırları yer yer subjektif konuda tartışmalar yürüyüp gidecek, biliyorum 🙃Dolayısıyla sadece buraya bırakmayı tercih ediyorum. Önce kendimiz güçlü duralım sevgili kadınlar ve tabiiki ihtiyacımız olduğunda birbirimize destek olalım. 👊🏻 Eser: #ORLAN#lebaiserdelartiste#kadınhakları
The man in this photo is a sexual predator.
Sunday I went out with my friends Victoria and Jenny and the person in this photo, AJ. I had met him only one other night. We had a fun time, had some drinks downtown and hungout. At the end of the night we all landed at Victoria’s place and she invited me, Jenny and AJ to stay since we were all really tipsy. I took her up on that offer immediately. After failing to order a pizza I passed out on her bed with Jenny next to me asleep. AJ was relegated to the couch. Sometime during the middle of the night Jenny had left the small apt for a few minutes and Victoria was out of the room as well. During that brief window of time which must have been between 4- 4:30 in the morning I woke up to my shirt pulled halfway off me and this creep stooped over me is grabbing my chest and sucking on my breast forcefully, all while I was dead asleep. I woke up because it hurt, I don’t know how long he had been touching me before then but I woke up and fortunately nothing further happened. Still he had already sexually assaulted me. I was asleep. I gave 0 consent. He is not someone I felt any attraction for, something he was well aware of. Talking with the girls in the morning I found out he had to be kicked out of the bed several times during the night because he would not stay on the couch. That he has had a problem keeping his hands to himself in the past. To me all this indicates he is a dangerous sexual predator and does not have respect for boundaries or a persons right to safety. I don’t blame Jenny or Victoria for leaving the room although they both feel guilty for it. The fact is we should not be unsafe sleeping in the same room as a man we invited to hangout as a mutual friend. Someone Victoria has known for several years. I should not need protecting. Unfortunately that was not true. This man doesn’t understand that he cannot play with someone’s body while they sleep because they can’t consent. My body is mine to share with who I want, when I want in every circumstance. No apology or excuse will ever make up this. #nastypig#rapist#timesup#pieceofshit
#GetReady 1.20.18 #Worldwide#WomensMarch
Focus #Midterms 11.6.18
On 1.20.18, we march for Women's Rights, Immigrant's Rights, Reproductive Rights, Civil Rights, Economic Justice and Environmental Rights. We march in solidarity with our sisters around the world. We march and vote for those who can not vote. #WomensMarch2018
We are less than two weeks out from the Women's March AROUND THE WORLD! Do you have your marching shoes ready?!?!
All over the world we are demanding #equality, compassion and #equanimity#PotIsNotTheProblem
Just a reminder about race, poverty, privilege, and our sisters and brothers in prison
#AmericaFirst & #MAGA is a perpetual lie told to unify hate and separate Americans from themselves and the world.
Tax Scam Bill
Net Neutrality #MeToo
GOP Tax Scam Silence Breakers #TimesUp
Fair Taxation TrumpSexism End Police Recklessness DeEscalation Training for Police
No More - Waking Up Stay Focused Russian Collusion Pause This Presidency Russian Influence Stop Abusing Taxpayers Liar In Chief Workers Rights PeacefulProtest Healthcare=Civil Rights #WaterIsLife ImpeachTrump
Diplomacy Not War #Protest Persist #DACA Indivisible NoBan NoWall No Raids #LGBTQ PeacefulProtest Resist #BLM#Feminism EndRacism ✊🏽 ✊🏼 ✊🏿 ✊🏻 ✊🏾
❤️🎺H8 #shitholepresident Say #Shithole one more time. There are no #ShitholeCountries, just countries with people that deserve dignity.
This is Romida. She is the leader of a Watch committee in Mainnerghona refugee camp in Bangladesh – responding to the #RohingyaCrisis. ●
Established by #ActionAid#Bangladesh and local partner YPSA, Romida’s committee helps empower women to respond to and prevent gender based violence in the camp.
Thanks to #womensleadership in this area, Romida says that violence in their block has dropped considerably since the committee was established. That's an incredible achievement!
No more accepting sexual harassment and inequality at work as normal. It's NOT normal. #TIMESUP - Link up top in bio.
Now more than ever, parents, family members, school staff and the governments of all countries need to open their eyes and see the injustice occurring to innocent girls and women. We need to stop suppressing women and blaming them for the misdeeds of animals. We need to start punishing the horrific beings that sexually assault innocent beings like Zainab. Poor Zainab was only seven years old. ONLY SEVEN! Today she should’ve been playing with her toys while attending school. She did not deserve to have so much snatched away from her, including her innocent life. The smallest coffins are the heaviest and the only way any of us can make up to poor Zainab and many, many other girls like her, is by punishing the creature who did this to her. He mustn’t get away with this, Zainab deserves justice! #justice4zainab#justiceforzainab#stopsexualassault#timesup#stopsexualviolence#stopsexualabuse#zainabdeservesjustice -💙❄️💠🌎 🌞🌙✨💥